SHOW AND TELL
Bring a thing that helps keep us healthy.
Topic: Health Professions
The work adults do
The value is collaboration, which is to work together for the common good.
For science, we’ll explore experiments about our senses.
Outside, we’ll practice walking on a balance beam.
The songs we’ll be singing are Brush Your Teeth, It’s a Small World, Them Bones, Kumbaya, and Do Your Ears Hang Low?
For creative dramatics, we’ll pretend to be health care professionals.
Our art activities are glue overs, people rocks, toothy mouth, splatter bugs, and construction sticks.
For motor development, we’ll work on flexibility with yoga poses. For vestibular function, we’ll do log rolls, spelling with our heads, walking dizzy, and running in circles.
JUST BE THERE FOR ME
Ellen Galinsky, president of Families and Work Institute, has turned her research to ask children what they think. What a revolutionary approach! She uses children from ages 8 to 18, first because they’re young enough to remember, then because they’re verbal enough to express their thoughts and emotions. After all this time she has come to the conclusion that we’re asking the wrong questions. It has nothing to do with whether mom works or not. It has to do with how the children are parented. According to her research, most parents think their children would wish for more time with parents. Au contraire. Only 10% of children would wish for more time with their mothers. About 15% would wish for more time with their fathers. Older kids tended to want more time with their parents than younger children. When you get to the point that you have a sulking, rebellious teenager, remember this.
But check this out. Fully 27% wish their parents were less stressed out and another 23% wish their parents had more money so they didn’t have to worry so much about financial issues. Children were incredibly sensitive to what kind of day their parents had, going so far as to say that if their parent had a bad day, they would be extra careful to be totally “good” so as not to be an extra burden on their parents!
So what do we do with this information? Ellen reminds us of a pretty standardly accepted triangle that stress is directly related to (1) job demands and pressure (not hours), (2) the amount of control you have in your job, and (3) the amount of support you get. Support can be spousal, family, friends, co-workers, and child care. All of these things are pretty immediately within our control, if not directly at least with an attitude shift. Some other great points from Galinsky:
- Kids think we don’t like work very much. Which means they don’t like work either, like school and chores. They follow what we do, not what we say. So if we want things different here, we’re going to have to demonstrate a different attitude about going to work and about chores. FYI: It’s a pretty simple shift to think “I get to go to work” instead of “I have to go to work”.
- Parents really don’t have much of a clue what’s going on in their kids’ lives. Kids want their parents to be involved in school, sports, extracurricular, and in their child’s inner life. Kids want parents to ask their child big questions, like “What do you think about that”, “How did that make you feel”, and “What could be done to make it better for you”. Not too different from what our spouses and friends want from us.
- Kids want to know that their parents are there for them, loving them no matter what, listening when they talk, and just hanging around. Over and over we hear, it’s not the big stuff like special trips or birthday parties, but the goodnight ritual or sending off in the morning that means so much.
For Your Information
Health Professions – If you work in one of these professions, the children delight in having their parents give a demonstration. Please let us know if you could spare some time one afternoon to share your work with the children.
Name Calling – To help discourage name calling we are asking students to call each other by the name given by mom and dad. Often name calling is fun and a silly thing to do but as children get older, name calling can lead to words like “ugly” and “fat” or other names that provoke sadness please discourage your child from name calling.
About Sunscreen and Insect Repellent – There’s a lot of confusion about these two products. For the sunscreen, our children are really not outside for extended periods, and they have continued to be out for about the same time as the sun’s intensity has increased. Consequently, their bodies have gradually tanned so that sunscreen is not usually needed. If you have concerns in this area, clothing protection is usually a better solution at the school than a chemical.
Insect repellents are a little different. Plant based repellents seem a better choice for our little ones, but we would prefer that you let us use our judgment on when they should be applied during the afternoons. If you want repellent applied in the mornings, please do it before you arrive at the school.
In either case, both products must be applied as if they were a medicine. You’ll need to provide the product and complete a medicine authorization form for it to be applied as needed.